God Is Love

Men and women thinks that sharing their bed with their spouse just fulfills the true meaning of love. In fact, they are not making love, they are trying to get hold of this materialistic world by climbing the ladder of sex.

Love is altogether different. Love is purity - love brings great purity. In fact it is love which can bring purity; other kinds of purity are cultivated, artificial. Love brings purity which can occur as a result of an unplanned impulse, it comes on its own accord; you don't do anything about it. When you are in love, purity surrounds you like a fragrance - a pleasant, sweet smell.

Let's not think about the purity in a religious way; that kind of purity is just a practiced thing, it is cover with a mask. Deep inside you remain the same, or you become very skilful in empty gestures or intentions. That purity is not genuine and thus phony.

The real purity has not to be practiced, it cannot be practiced : love brings it. One has to go deep into love and suddenly the gift comes. The gift is purity! The risk is love; purity is a gift. One who risks, gets it. It is a reward given in recognition from heaven. It is not managed, it is an elegance of movement.

Make real love notwithstanding the fact that you were in love with a person who donot know the true meaning of love. In fact, love has no name. You cannot define love, you cannot say what it is? You can be in love, you can experience love, you can help others to experience love, but there is no way you can define love. Millions of people have loved, millions of people have experienced the joy of it, the mystery of it, but not a single definition exists in the world.

That's the case with god as well. That's why Jesus says 'God is Love'. Both love and god are indefinables. God is unknown to us, but love is little bit known. So let's start from love. From love to god, that's the whole way or track to move. From one definable that is available to another definable that is not available. But because both are indefinable and nameless, there is something that is similar that bridges them.

Your Love Life Can Become A Festival Of Lights!

Mind creates illusions about everything and then gets disillusioned and disturbed. You love a man, you love a woman - you create a certain illusion about the man or the woman. It is only illusion and not the truth. Truth is you are actually imposing an image in your mind. Image you have created will be upset greatly soon, since no illusion can last long against reality.

And by the time you understand that things are not the way you had imagined them to be, you shift the whole responsibility on the other person. Then a woman who was beautiful turns out to be an unpleasant woman and a man you had thought to be a gentleman turns to be a henpecked husband. You will shift the responsibility by saying that he deceived you by pretending to be something that he was not, that she was pretneding to be one of the many beautiful women with all the make-up that she was not.

All of us wants to love; all of us wants to be loved but the mind is the only barrier which does not really allow you to love, nor does it allow you to be loved. Actually mind comes in the way and starts distorting everything. Because for twenty-five years of your education you have been conditioned by this society to go by your mind and forget your heart! Mind can only do calculation but your heart can sing a song.

Your love life, your relationship fails for the simple reason that your minds are cultivated differently. The two minds are conditioned in a different way, brought up with different ideas, filled with different programs. This conditioning process should be completely changed. The mind should be trained to be a servant of the heart because only then your illusions will fall away and sooner you will be able to live without illusions, without hallucinations - means live in peace, live in silence; and then to celebrate the life which can become a festival of lights!

Shift in Relationship skills required

There has been lot of socio-economic vicissitudes for the past fifty years which has very largely affected traditional men and women roles. Women are no longer mothers, nurturers and homemakers because modern women are now leaving the home and joining workplace has minimised men’s traditional value to women. Women are now independent and self-sufficient and no longer feel the same value for men to provide for her and her children or protect them.

Women now make a map of her own destiny and does everything of her own be it in-door or out-door. She can now face any danger and call police or take the support of our legal system. Modern women are not biologically determined to have children and be dependent on men any longer. She now have more control over child birth and knows when and how many factor! In fact there has been a shift in relationships which have resulted from the complete use of birth control all over and the following sexual far –reaching change or revolution.

Modern men tend to forget that they no longer have the job they held for centuries. They are no longer appreciated as providers and protectors. Things now have changed dramatically because their role in a family and their earnings are not enough to make their spouse happy. Modern women need much more!

On the other hand women are really overworked as they have to sustain work and effort both at home and outside. After a full time job men cannot expect their wives to be relaxed, sensitive and pleasing to them. Any woman will obvisouly expect help from her husband in daily chores of life.

In fact we are now utterly dependent on each other both for security and survival and the relationship skills and strategies that we have learnt from our forefathers no longer work! Men and women now must learn skills to develop relationships as we mainly look for love and romance and happiness, intimacy and lasting passion are now requirements for fulfilling relationships.