Emotional Bank Account is mandatory in a Relationship

Men and Women considers marriage a solemn agreement, a covenant life-long relationship is made a business proposition nowadays. So much precious money flows down the drain: lavish and luxurious feasting, resulting in the mendous wastage of food, extravagant illuminations in an environment of power crisis.

Men and women tend to forget that marriage is not a business proposition rather it is building up of a high Emotional Bank Account. In a life-long relationship we build the foundation of character in order to maintain and build a sweet relationship. The trust, the Emotional Bank Account, is the essence of a nice relationship. We all know what a financial bank account is? Whenever possible we make desposits into it and create a bank balance in order to make withdrawals whenever we need to. Whereas an Emotional Bank Account is a metaphor that describes the amount of trust that’s been built up in a relationship. It is nothing but a feeling of safe custody or safeness you have with another human being.

You make deposits in the name of courtesy, kindness, honesty and keeping commitments in your Emotional Bank Account and build up a reserve. As the time goes by in a relationship with those deposits, trust levels become higher. Now, even if you make mistakes, that trust level, that emotional reserve will compensate for it. In essence, when the trust account is high, communication is easy, instant and effective.

Contrary to that if you have a habit of showing discourtesy, disrespect, betraying trust etc, your Emotional Bank Account is overdrawn and your trust level gets very low. So, you should be very careful what you say or everything you say. You should measure every word. Otherwise, it’s a tension city!

Many relationships are filled with it. Many families are filled with it. Many marriages are filled with it. If your Emotional Bank Account is not sustained by continuing deposits, a relationship will soon deteriorate. Our most worthy relationship like marriage require our most constant deposits. With continuing expectations, old deposits continue to evaporate and you need a positive balance to communicate on these tender issues.